The Day I Learned to Forgive
It all begins with an idea.
The Shock That Changed Everything: For 27 years, I was a pastors’s wife - devoted to ministry, family, and faith. At 47, I was served with divorce papers. I still remember standing there at the post office signing for that certified mail, papers in hand, feeling like my world had cracked open. I had spent my adult life helping others heal, never imagining I’d need the same kind of grace for myself.
Facing the Pain: In those first months, I wrestled with anger, shame, and disbelief. I asked God questions that had no easy answers. How could a marriage I believed was built on faith unravel? Why me? I thought forgiving him would mean saying what he did was okay- but forgiveness isn’t permission. It’s release.
The Turning Point: Forgiveness began the moment I realized it wasn’t about my ex-husband. It was about my peace. Carrying the hurt kept me tied to a past God was trying to free me from. Slowly, I stopped replaying what was done and started praying for what could still be healed - in me.
Rebuilding the Woman I Was Meant To Be: At 54, I kept a promise I’d made long ago to my parents that because I had chosen ministry and marriage over finishing college, that one day I would get my degree in law. Walking across that stage, magna cum laude, I felt like I had closed one chapter and begun another. My parents weren’t there to see it, but my three adult daughters were, and that moment was for all of us. Again, receiving that degree wasn’t just about education; it was about redemption. It was me saying “I kept my word.” It was a reminder that it’s never too late to rise, rebuild, and finish what you started.
Living in Forgiveness: Forgiveness didn’t erase the pain. It just gave me the power to stop reliving it. I learned that peace is the proof of forgiveness. I’m not bitter. I’m better. I’m not broken, I’ve became whole. Healing didn’t come overnight. It came in the quiet mornings when I chose prayer over bitterness, in the moments I decided to see peace as progress, and in the realization that I could love my own company. Slowly, I began to see that healing isn’t about returning to who you were -it’s about becoming who you’re meant to be.
A Little Mama Wisdom: Forgiveness doesn’t excuse what happened - it releases you to live again. Let go, not because they deserve it, but because you do.
The Story Behind Mama Wisdom
Hey Friend, I’m so happy you’re here. I’ve always been considered a second “mama” to my daughter’s friends, and before I knew it that “honor” was also coming to me from women in my church and work circles. I’ve always enjoyed mentoring and having real talk with women who are just trying to figure out “life.” When I first dreamed of starting Mama Wisdom, I wanted to create a space where real life and real faith could meet. A place for women who are trying to balance it all - family, faith, work, wellness, and everything in between - but still crave peace, purpose, and a little laughter along the way.
Because let’s be honest - life isn’t always tidy. It’s full of joy and exhaustion, answered prayers and unanswered questions, holy moments and messy ones too. But even in the middle of it all, I’ve learned that God’s grace shows up - sometimes in the quiet, sometimes in the chaos, and sometimes through a little wit to keep us laughing when life feels too serious.
Mama Wisdom was born out of that space - where wisdom meets warmth, where we can talk about motherhood, and marriage one day, one day faith and fear the next, and always find encouragement in between.
Here you’ll find:
Honest stories about life and family
Reflections on faith and personal growth
Simple wellness reminders that nourish your mind, body, and spirit
Encouragement to help you keep going, even when life looks different than you planned
Maybe you are in a season of rebuilding, or just learning to see beauty again after loss - my hope is that when you read these words, you’ll feel seen, understood, and inspired to keep showing up - imperfectly, but faithfully. That you might learn that even after heartbreak, there’s hope, even in change, there’s grace, and sometimes a little wit can make the healing lighter.
So grab your coffee or tea, take a deep breath, and make yourself at home. You’re right where you need to be.
Founder & Voice of Mama Wisdom