“When God Says ‘Trust Me,’ Honey, He Ain’t Saying Yes.”
I thought that title would capture your attention!
But stay with me, because it’s not as rebellious as it sounds.
I’ve lived enough life and walked with God long enough to understand something that took me years to admit out loud:
When God whispers, “Trust Me,” the answer… is usually a “no.”
Now hold on—don’t grab your prayer cloth or start flinging holy oil at my blog on your screen just yet. Bear with me a few minutes to let me explain.
There was a scripture I loved when I was growing into my relationship with the Lord:
“All of God’s promises are yes and amen.”
In my early days I interpreted that to mean, “If I want it, God must be saying yes, because, well… scripture.”
So imagine my shock when I later learned that this did not mean God was obligated to hand me whatever shiny thing my heart desired.
I know, sweetie—your feelings are hurt. You wanted me to tell you this isn’t true.
But listen, I’m not saying God doesn’t answer prayers.
I am saying He isn’t a genie in the sky waiting for you to shout some magic church phrases so He can grant your every desire.
God is far more invested in answering prayers that line up with His will, your growth, and His Kingdom’s purpose—not just our cravings.
And am I telling you that you shouldn’t pray?
Absolutely not!
But I am telling you to shift how you pray.
Instead of, “Lord, give me what I want,” try:
“Lord, this is what’s happening down here in my world—as You can clearly see.
Can You give me direction on how I should move concerning this or that?”
That kind of prayer keeps your heart open, not entitled.
It invites God to lead rather than perform.
And it positions you to receive something better than what you were begging for.
Let me share a personal story, because my life has been one long curriculum in the School of “Trust Me.”
Most people know that my former spouse left me out of the blue.
I came home and found a yellow sticky note with the words:
“I’m gone. Get a job.”
Well—what does any red-blooded Christian woman do at a time like that?
I grabbed the horns of my bedpost and begged God to make it un-true, to save my marriage, to turn it all around.
And right in the middle of my boo-hooing, I felt something deep in my spirit.
Not thunder. Not lightning.
Just a firm whisper: “Trust Me.”
And in that moment, I knew exactly what that meant.
God was not going to answer that petition.
The answer was no.
Not because He wanted to break me, but because He wanted to build me.
And let me tell you something I never thought I’d say:
I’ve learned to love God’s “no.”
When I look back over the years—every tear, every closed door, every detour—
His no was better than any yes I ever could have received.
Every “no” protected me from something I didn’t see, pushed me into growth I didn’t want, and prepared me for blessings I couldn’t imagine.
God’s “no” isn’t rejection.
It’s redirection.
It’s refinement.
It’s Him saying,
“Daughter, I know the way. Trust Me—even when it doesn’t feel like a blessing yet.”
Mama Wisdom Reflection:
Maybe you’re standing in your own moment right now—hands gripping the bedpost of life, heart cracked wide open, asking God to fix what feels unfixable.
If that’s you, hear this from someone who has lived through the “no’s” and survived the shaking:
God’s “no” is not the end of your story.
It’s the beginning of a better chapter.
Sometimes the greatest act of faith isn’t shouting, “Yes, Lord!”
It’s whispering, “Okay… I trust You,” even when the answer isn’t what you prayed for.
So breathe.
Release your timetable, your expectations, your fears.
And let God lead you into a future where His real yes has already been set in motion.
Scripture to Hold Close
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart;
and lean not on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
and He shall direct your paths.” — Proverbs 3:5–6
Let this be the truth you stand on when God says, “Trust Me.”
Because where He is leading is always better than where you thought you were going.
