The Sacred Strength of Being Single
Are you a single woman?
Pause for just a moment and sit with that word.
Single.
Does it make you feel unseen, incomplete, or somehow “behind”? Does it echo with the lie that something is missing in your life?
If so, hear me clearly and tenderly:
There is nothing lacking in you. Being single is not a curse, a flaw, or a waiting room. It is a season full of possibility, purpose, and power.
From girlhood, many of us were handed a narrow script. We watched our mothers, aunties, or women around us living as part of a pair — cooking, caring, cleaning, nurturing. Some of us grew up believing the end goal of womanhood was marriage, and that adulthood didn’t truly “begin” until a ring was on our finger.
What no one told us was this:
Single is not a half-life.
Single is not second-class.
Single is not unfinished.
I learned this truth the hard way.
When my former spouse walked out, the last thing he said to me was, “No one will ever want you again.” His intention was to break me. But instead, something rose up inside me — a holy determination, a fierce clarity:
I don’t need someone else to want me. I need to want myself.
Wanting myself became the spark that changed everything.
I went back to college.
I built a career.
I found financial independence.
I traveled to places I had only dreamed of.
I rediscovered joy — not the shared kind, but the unshakeable kind that grows from the inside out.
And if you are a woman of faith like me, then you know Paul’s words in Scripture: singleness is a gift. A calling. A freedom that allows us to live without the burdens, compromises, and concerns that marriage naturally carries.
Let me say this gently:
Marriage is beautiful, but it is not the pinnacle of womanhood.
Being single is beautiful, too — in a different and deeply liberating way.
So many women speak of marriage as the ultimate accomplishment, the final puzzle piece, the thing that “completes” a woman. But hear me:
You were complete the day you were born.
Marriage adds companionship — not identity.
Singleness adds freedom — not deficiency.
I love waking up and dressing for me.
I love spending my money the way I choose.
I love making decisions without needing approval or explanation.
I love discovering who I am, without being defined by anyone else’s expectations.
So if you’re standing at the fence — looking longingly at married life — take a step back and ask yourself:
What might you be overlooking in your own beautiful, unbounded, single life?
What joy, peace, growth, and freedom might already be blossoming at your feet?
Singleness is not the space between one life and the next.
It is life — full and rich and sacred.
