Peace in My Own Company
When I first walked through divorce, I thought the goal was to “get back” to something -back to normal, back to who I was before, back to being part of a pair.
But as time passed, I realized I wasn’t meant to go back. I was being invited forward - into healing, into wholeness, and into a version of myself I hadn’t even met yet.
For a long time, “single” sounded like a label that meant “incomplete.” The world tells us that happiness comes after you find your “other half.” But I’ve learned that when you walk with God, you’re never half of anything- you’re already whole.
Healing First, Happiness Follows - Healing didn’t happen overnight. It came in quiet mornings, honest prayers, and simple moments of choosing peace over pain. It came when I stopped asking “Why me?” and started asking “What now, Lord?”
Happiness showed up in small ways - my laughter coming back, rediscovering my confidence, making choices that reflected who I’d become, not who I was trying to prove something to.
Redefining Wholeness - Wholeness isn’t about perfection; it’s about peace. It’s knowing that you can enjoy your own company, that your worth doesn’t depend on being chosen, and that your joy can stand on its own two feet.
Being single has become one of the most freeing, faith-building seasons of my life. It’s a time of becoming - becoming steady, becoming rooted, becoming more “me” than I’ve even been.
Faith Over Fear : When you’re rebuilding after divorce or even the death of a spouse, it’s easy to feel uncertain about what’s next. But I’ve learned that God doesn’t waste pain - He repurposes it. Every tear, every lonely night, every unanswered prayer has led me to trust Him in ways I never did before.
Now, when people ask if I want to remarry, I smile and say, “I’m content right where God has me.” Because peace is better than partnership, especially when the partnership isn’t right.
The Beauty of “Just Me”: There’s a quiet joy that comes from sitting in your own space, loving your life as it is, and realizing - I made it. I’m not bitter. I’m not broken. I’m blessed. So if you’re in that space of rebuilding - healing from what ended, and wondering what’s ahead - take heart. You’re not behind. Your’re becoming whole.
And one day, you’ll look around and realize: You’re not alone. There’s joy in this season - joy in quiet mornings, in friendships that feel like family, in doing things on my own terms. I am not waiting to be completed. I am just beautifully, happily single - and completely whole.
Mama Wisdom Reflection: Baby, when you finally get comfortable with your own company, you stop handing out backstage passes to folks who don’t deserve a seat in the audience.
